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Top 5 Prom Tips for Parents


*Fair warning: If you don't suffer from anxiety about every bad thing that could happen when your kids walk out the door, this post isn't for you. But, if you are a good old-fashioned worry wart like me, read on my friend, read on...


I take "mommying" very seriously. And, I dare say, my style of mothering -- constantly keeping every single thing that maybe-might-possibly go wrong in mind -- has served me rather well: Everybody's alive and happy. But, as my kids got older, and the worries became greater, I realized that I had to find a way to chill out. Oddly enough, prepping for prom 2018 helped me to do just that.

5. Play the Long Game

Get to know your daughter's friends long before prom. Encourage her to have a sleepover in early spring. Make the party memorable: Place the ingredients to your daughter's favorite cookies on the kitchen island with recipe instructions for them to bake a double batch, or fill the family room with pillows and provide loads of popcorn with fun toppings to munch on with a movie. The girls will have lots of fun while you get to know her new friends and reconnect with old ones.


4. Set a Reasonable Budget

Be clear that while prom is important, but it's not a wedding ceremony. Instead of professional hair, makeup, limo, and a designer gown, pick one thing to splurge on. She'll appreciate clear boundaries about spending even if she doesn't say so. Not to mention, you'll rest easier prom night knowing she doesn't have an unlimited Visa at the fanciest restaurant in town. Consider donating formal attire to Becca's Closet, a nonprofit organization that collects and distributes dresses to high school girls with financial need.

3. Role-play Discussions about Sex, Drugs, and Alcohol

Daughters and sons need to be reminded that their bodies are precious. More often than not they aren't nervous about initially saying "No!" to unwanted advances or drugs. What scares them is what to do when someone is persistent or aggressive. I try to focus on how to say no, mean it, and stick to it. Our family acts out realistic scenarios of peer and dating pressures. Be sure to switch characters. You may be surprised to find your daughter draws on her own experiences for both roles.


2. Keep Your Worries to Yourself

Don't be a teary mess. Your child will wind up being worried about you rather than having fun. It is unfair to inject your fears into a night that should be all about the kiddo (young adult). Instead, smile wide and take lots of pictures. Your confidence will remind your daughter that you trust her and will encourage her to make good choices.

1. Keep the Send Off Short and Sweet

Organize a photo shoot at a park, picturesque college campus, or a party-perfect backyard. Encourage parents to bring hors d'oeuvres and clear (in case of spills) non-alcoholic drinks. Keep picture taking to half an hour or less. It doesn't sound like much time, but remember, the teenagers do not want to party with you--they just want great pictures. There is nothing worse than the parent who begs for one more photo as the kids are walking out the door.


The key to sleeping easy with a teenager, prom night and every night, is knowing that you gave it your all as a mom. You put in the work to ensure that, while she will make mistakes, her judgment is solid and her moral compass is strong.


Once the kids have gone, pull out the champagne to celebrate. You did it!

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